An online dating adventure with a divine ending
Losing a major source of Narcissistic supply is a very stressful experience for a Narcissist. Cohabitating with a Narcissist, you are trying to free yourself from, is like a recovering alcoholic moving into a bar. Give him a date and if that date comes and goes and he’s still there, get the police involved and have him forcibly removed.You may be thinking, that’s so harsh I don’t want to do that – trust me you have probably threatened to kick him out so many times, he has stopped taking you seriously. A Narcissist needs followers and the attention they bring, so you can expect to be bad mouthed and in the retelling to anyone that will listen, expect that he will spin it, so the story parleys you as the evil doer and our poor Narcissist as the victim.You’ve started to feel stronger emotionally and you’re thinking about your needs and wants and what your life would be like Stage four is simply ending the relationship. You’ve physically moved away from your Narcissist, you’ve cut all contact and you feel really good about your decision.You realize in time you will forgive him and yourself, but right now, you want nothing to do with him.Savannah Grey is a Freelance Writer, Hypnotherapist, Sports Fanatic and Philosopher.She has a degree in Psychology and is the founder of esteemology.com, a website dedicated to educating and healing survivors of abusive relationships.Getting from stage one to four doesn’t happen overnight.Some people remain stuck in one stage or the other.
Do not expect benevolence or understanding – Narcissists are incapable of this.
Don’t engage in the drama, become the ice queen – show no emotion, even if you’re dying inside. Let them know under no uncertain terms that it’s over – the supply has run out.
Hold firm to your decision and don’t respond to all the mudslinging and character assassination.
If you’ve been involved with a Narcissist, you have likely been doubting what your senses have been telling you.
You have invested so much and to walk away without a return on your investment seems unfathomable.Savannah Grey is a Freelance Writer, a Hypnotherapist, Consultant, Sports Fanatic, and Philosopher and has a degree in Psychology.